Why hiding in the spiritual closet was my safe place for quite a long time. This blog is about what happens if you show yourself to the world.
Coming out of the spiritual closet
I used to talk about KPIs, projects and deadlines. My friends knew me as the ambitious one — always on the go, always chasing the next goal.
Then came the shift. My conversations started changing… first in my journal, then in my head, and finally — hesitantly — in whispers over coffee.
Instead of quarterly targets, I wanted to talk about how yoga made me feel. Instead of asking “How’s work?” I wanted to ask, “What makes you happy?”
But for a while, I didn’t say those things out loud. I kept them tucked away, afraid of how my friends might react.
Because here’s the truth: coming out as spiritual — especially when people have known you in your “old life” — can feel just as scary as any other big reveal
Why We Hide Our Spiritual Side
When I first started on my spiritual journey, there was a deep desire to protect it. It’s tender. It’s still growing roots.
I hid my spiritual side for three reasons:
- Fear of being dismissed – I didn’t want my beliefs reduced to “woo-woo” or brushed off as a phase.
- Fear of losing credibility – I’d built my identity on being sharp, logical, and business-minded. Would this undo all of that?
- Fear of losing connection – What if my friends no longer related to me? What if they pulled away?
And underneath all of it… I worried they wouldn’t see me anymore.
When the Soul Became Louder Than the Fear
There came a moment when staying silent felt heavier than the risk of speaking up.
It wasn’t dramatic — no lightning bolt, no grand announcement. Just one quiet morning, after meditation, I thought:
“If my friends can’t see this part of me, they can’t truly see me.”
I realized hiding was exhausting. And that every time I downplayed my spiritual side, I was also dimming my light.
Sharing your spiritual side with friends
I didn’t gather everyone into a room and say, “Surprise! I read Akashic Records now.”
Instead, I began dropping little pieces of my truth into everyday conversations:
- “I’ve been starting my mornings with meditation — it’s changing everything for me.”
- “I pulled a tarot card for clarity last night, and it was so spot on.”
- “I’ve been reading about soul contracts — fascinating stuff.”
Some friends lit up and leaned in with curiosity. Others smiled politely and changed the subject. Both responses were okay. And for some the reading of this blog will be my coming out. Really curious how they will react.
What Helped Me Feel Safe
If you’re still in the spiritual closet, here’s what made a difference for me:
- Owning my truth first – I spent time grounding in my practices before sharing them.
- Not needing full understanding – I learned it was enough if my friends respected it, even if they didn’t “get it.”
- Inviting curiosity – Instead of defending my beliefs, I let friends ask questions.
- Setting boundaries with love – I didn’t overshare with those who were dismissive; I poured my energy into the connections that felt safe.
Friendships shifted or deepened
Yes, some friendships faded. We still care for each other, but our paths went in a different direction. And while that was painful, I’ve also found a new kind of magic — the friendships that deepened.
When you show your real self, you invite others to do the same. Conversations became richer. Support became truer. And I began attracting people who spoke my soul’s language without me having to translate.
If you are still in hiding
It’s okay to take your time. You don’t need to wear your mala beads to the next dinner party if you’re not ready. But know this: your truth will call to you louder and louder until you answer.
You don’t have to convince anyone. You just have to live it. And in doing so, you might just give someone else permission to step out of their own closet — whatever it may be.
It’s Not a Phase, It’s a Return
This path isn’t a detour. It’s a homecoming.
And the right people — the ones meant to walk with you — will feel your truth even if they don’t fully understand it.
So when you’re ready, open that door.
The light feels even warmer on the outside
